Transitions happen to all of us – they come with changes, some without choice, that have our lives and age reflected back to us:
- Moving into your first apartment, moving out of your apt. into a mortgage-owned house,
- Starting primary school, graduating from university,
- Entering puberty, starting menstruation, menopause,
- Starting your first job, retiring from your final paid job,
- Having children and then later emptying the nest.
With every transition there is a beginning and an ending. It’s strange to think that even with a happy transition there’s a loss. There’s a loss of one identity as you move towards another. Being promoted, or pregnant with your first child, or retiring - mean that you’re taking on a new identity and role, and losing an old one.
A suggestion for a powerful present you can give to someone you care (including YOU) about who is going through a life transition is a journal.
You’d be giving the gift of creativity, exploration, adventure, health, growth, learning and a powerful way to cope with the ups and downs of transitions.
There is an incredible process that takes place during transitions – like new shoots that grow on a plant. We realize new growth and aspects of ourselves that we never knew before.
A journal is a magical place to capture that growth and learning – it’s a place to write, draw, collage, muse, rage, cry, dream, imagine and play.
Here are some recommended items for your gift package, whether for yourself or someone else:
- A journal without lines, one that can fit into a bag/purse. You can even make your own journal see the Remains of the Day e-course with Mary Ann Moss at her Dispatch from LA blog,
- Different coloured pens, markers and/or pencils,
- Double-sided tape and/or glue stick,
- Anything else you like.
The instructions are simple:
- Journal whenever you feel like it – every day or whenever you need or want to, you can write one word or two, or draw, doodle,
- Maybe you want to cut out images or pictures or words and glue them into your journal,
- You can include an article, comic strip, photo, art, quote, note, card, anything really,
- Continue to add anything that stirs your curiousity and soothes your heart...
You can also include a few sentence completion cards to get the journaling started…
- One thing I’m grateful for (during this transition) is...
- The most surprising thing (about this transition) is…
- What I want to remember about this transition is…
Two well-known experts who have written great books about transitions:
- William Bridges Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes 2nd Ed.
- Martha Beck Finding Your Own North Star: claiming the life you were meant to live
"Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." George Bernard Shaw