Brad is one of the youngest people who participated in the interview project about aging, death and dying, and he readily agreed to story his interview with me for this book. When we began to talk about dying, he spoke frankly and thoughtfully:
Since I’ve started launching and promoting The Invitation, this is one of the themes that often comes up. Young adults and adult children are telling me how the emotional piece is missing in these conversations. Their parent(s) don’t talk about the emotional aspects of aging, death and dying and they don’t know how to bring it up in conversation. Adult children want to, they are ready to, and they don’t know how.
So, here I humbly offer a few suggestions, and I also believe that even before you read them, you may have some ideas of your own.
- One suggestion is to understand your own ambivalence, resistance and/or avoidance about discussing aging, dying and death with your children, spouse, parents, friends, and relatives.
- Another idea is to read the stories in the book and notice what moves you, resonates for you, frustrates, aggravates, confuses, or makes you uncomfortable.
- You might want to consider reflecting and writing down your own responses to the interview questions (they are included in the final chapter).
Let’s keep working on exploring and talking about these taboo topics, and having these conversations together. Let's work together to lessen this uncomfortable silence.